Between the joyous music and beautiful Christmas lights, we often forget about those struggling throughout the holiday season because of the loss of family or a friend. 
This time of year is typically one filled with joy and togetherness, but it can be especially difficult when you are missing a loved one. You may find that there were a thousand moments you took for granted because you thought there would be a thousand more. Those moments are reminisced during this time of year, and you are likely wishing that you could have another holiday with someone you have lost. Whether it is the first or 10th holiday without them, there is no doubt it is still hard knowing they are not physically present. 
While navigating the holidays, it is especially important to maintain awareness of your overall well-being. You might find that all you can do this year is focus on surviving and caring for your mental health alongside that of your children’s. It is okay to not be okay.  
“It’s important to know your limits,” said Missy Burton, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor and Clinical Supervisor Coordinator. “Well-meaning people may invite you to events throughout the season, but you may only be able to attend one. And you may only be able to stay for an hour. And that’s okay.”
But should you find yourself feeling joy with others after experiencing loss, you should not feel guilty. 
If you are experiencing grief, creating new traditions in your family and making the most of your times together may help you and your family move forward.  
If the pain of loss feels too heavy, reach out for support. Hamilton Center has staff available 24-hours a day, 7 days a week, even on the holidays. We want to listen, we want to help, we want to offer hope. Contact the Hamilton Center’s Crisis/Diversion Center at (800) 742-0787.
Hamilton Center, Inc. is a regional health system in Central and West Central Indiana with corporate offices located in Terre Haute, Indiana. Services are provided to children, youth and adults, with specialized programs for expectant mothers, infants and people who may be struggling with stress, life changes or relationship issues, as well as more serious problems such as depression, anxiety disorders and serious mental illnesses.